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You enact a whole scene of
anger in your mind! You envision yourself talking angrily; you shout at him
and tell him some not so nice things. Sometimes people spend hours in such
negative, destructive inner dialogues.
There is a continuous
conversation going on in everyone's head, and a lot of energy, time and
attention are wasted on small unimportant incidents. This conversation goes
on from the moment of waking until falling asleep.
The inner dialogue continues
while working, studying, reading, watching TV, talking, walking, eating,
etc. There is a constant judging of people, commenting on what is going on,
planning, gossiping, and mental conversations with people.
These inner dialogues bring
about a snowball effect. The more we conduct them, the more we become
chained to them and unable to stop them. When the emotions are also evoked,
more power, energy and attachment are added. This has an adverse effect on
the behavior, judgment and general performance.
On many occasions the inner
dialogue is negative and strengthens any negative attitude and behavior.
Few people have enough faith in themselves and in their abilities, so as to
conduct positive inner dialogues. The process and effect of these inner
conversations is similar to affirmations. Constant thinking about the same
subject influences the subconscious mind, which consequently accepts these
thoughts and words and acts on them. Negative inner dialogues bring
negative results, and positive inner dialogues bring positive results.
You can use this process to
your advantage. It is an automatic activity, which goes on whether you are
aware of it or not. If you learn to become aware of it, you gain the
ability to control it. You can turn it into a positive dialogue. If you do
that, you come to realize that you have a mighty power in your possession.
Try to be aware of your
thoughts. Calmly watch what is going in your mind, even if after a few
moments you may forget to do that. The inner dialogue goes on even when physically
you are engaged with something else. It is not so easy to mentally separate
oneself from the thoughts and words the flow through the mind.
Over and over again endeavor
to keep your attention of what is going inside your head, and eventually
you will be able to become aware of the inner dialogue for longer times.
Watching the mind and what is going on inside it develops detachment.
Detachment gives a better control of the mind and its chatter.
Whenever you catch yourself
conducting a useless, futile conversation with yourself, stop it. Change it
to something more useful. Replace the subject, and the words. It is like
running an audiotape. Why not replace it with another tape that you like?
Why let this tape play by itself? Change the words of the inner dialogue to
positive ones about good health, happiness and success.
There is another thing you can
do, but this needs concentration and will power. You can try to stop this
inner conversation altogether. Try to ignore it and give your mind a vacation.
Let the mind rest for a little while. Life can certainly go on, even when
this dialogue is silenced. For a little while, enjoy some rest from the
mind's incessant conversation.
The inner dialogue is fine
sometimes, but most of the time it is just incessant useless chatter, which
distract the attention from what you are doing at each moment. By becoming
aware of it, and replacing it with a positive one, or just refusing to
become involved with it, you gain the ability to control it.
© Copyright Remez Sasson
Remez Sasson teaches and
writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation,
self-improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the
author of several books, among which are "Will Power and Self
Discipline", "Visualize and Achieve" and "Affirmations
- Words of Power".
Visit his website and
find articles, advice, guidance and ebooks!
Website: http://www.SuccessConsciousness.com
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